as posted from yahoo groups…
Being Twenty-SomethingThey call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.” It is when you stop going alongwith the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things aboutyourself that you didn’t know and may not like. You start feeling insecureand wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared becauseyou barely know where you are now.You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friendsthat you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest peopleyou have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of themost important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizingthat too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, butthat they are as confused as you.You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would bedoing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going tohave to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts ofcollege, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constantbasis. But then you realize that maybe they weren’t so great after all.You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and findyourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize thatyou have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list ofwhat is acceptable and what is not.You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest forceof your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change isthe enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soonrealize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is
nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap and getting wastedand acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.